Tag: Breaking Away

Blog Post, Dating and Relationships, Money and Relationships, Who Am I

Why is the First Session Free?

There is a common misconception that coaches offering free consultations are doing so simply as a clever marketing gimmick. And while this may be true of some, the majority of us utilize this time to garner a more authentic relationship between client and coach, thereby increasing the likelihood that the sessions will be successful. And in the end, that’s the primary reason most of us became coaches, to help others in a field that we hold authority and expertise.

The truth is, for coaching to be effective, both parties must be compatible: simply put, we need to like each other. And to ensure that the liking is based on personality, and skillset and/or whatever other criterion that you are looking for, we don’t want money clouding the initial experience. To put it another way, there are a great many people out there who refuse to have someone pay on the first date, to ensure that there is no expectation for the dates outcome, i.e. sleeping together at the end of the night because someone bought you dinner. Money has a funny way of skewing first impressions, and that is not the goal.

There is a second reason I personally don’t charge for the first coaching session, and that is because it is your opportunity to ask me questions, and see if my approach, knowledge, or skillset would be a fit for what you are looking to achieve in your personal life. And quite frankly, it feels weird for someone to give me money so I can talk about myself, thereby proving my credibility. No one should have to pay for that privilege. 🙂 The value of my services should be apparent after that first meeting, but I want it to be for authentic reasons and not based on the sunk cost fallacy.

I am passionate about helping people achieve success in their love lives, but sometimes two people just can’t work together, for a variety of reasons. Personality mismatches are a huge part of life, so if after our initial session you realize this may be the case, there are no hard feelings. But if you and I agree that we would be a great fit, fantastic! I’ll send you the introductory form via e-mail and our journey towards helping you achieve your goals can begin!

So that in a nutshell is why the first 30 minutes are free! So, are you ready to begin?

Krys

Blog Post, Dating and Relationships

Spicing Things up for Couples in Long Term Relationships

One of the things that comes up with coaching couples and those in long term relationships is the idea of things getting stale. There are so many reasons for a long term partnership to feel like it’s fading: empty nesters, growing apart, career changes, and that just naming a few. You may wake up one morning, and ask yourself “who am I”? And then you look across the room, and feel that there is a stranger lying in your bed. It happens, and if you’re feeling this, know that you are not alone.

Sometimes, it feels easier to just start over, than it does to work through the problems the can feel insurmountable. In your mind, you’ve said it all, and felt it all and yet, that spark is gone. And chances are that your partner has felt it too. Either a shared feeling of emptiness, or the isolating feeling that they must be doing something wrong. Before we go any further, I need you to know that whatever you are feeling, right now, in this moment it is valid. And now, it is time to do something about it.

Perhaps it is something simple, like planning a little getaway, and re-kindling that intimate spark. When you both are present, outside of your everyday stress, things might just fall into place. Maybe you just both need a little sexy nudge, with some wine, a bubble bath, or perhaps you do something extra fun and take an intimacy quiz together, such as The Couples Sex Quiz (with both a free and paid version available and I don’t only recommend because it’s an affiliate link, it’s something I have used myself!). Whatever you decide to do, if it’s together, and you are both smiling and happy, then rejoice!

But, as many of us know, there are times when running away is no longer an option. And if you find yourself in that position, then it’s time to talk, and create a real plan of action for your relationship and your future. Together we will create an actionable plan for moving forward, increasing your communication skills, and answering that all important question, “who are you”, and “what do you need to be happy”.

If you’re ready to break away from the stagnant, then reach out to schedule your free 30 minute consultation today. And if you’re not ready to take that step, then feel free to look around my site where I will be posting blog posts, articles, book recommendation and more. And if you’re in YYC, stay tuned for some in person relationship rescue events TBA!

And remember, Love is Love and we all deserve to be heard!

Blog Post, Dating and Relationships, Who Am I

Re-Launch of Breaking Away from Relationship Norms!!!

Dating and Relationship Coaching

Puzzle pieces with monogamy, non-monogamy, and mismatched relationships written on them.

I am so excited, nervous, and overall proud to announce that I am relaunching my dating and relationship coaching business. Over the past few months I received some shiny new credentials, re-vamped my website, and even started an Instagram page dedicated to all things dating, relationships, sex positive, and everything that I think embodies my brand Breaking Away. I knew one day I would get back here, I just didn’t anticipate that it would happen so quickly, but c’est la vie right?!?

So, what does this look like? I am offering free 30 minute virtual sessions to assess if I am the right coach to help you achieve the wants/needs/questions you might have in your current relationship, or for your future relationships. If our initial consultation goes well, then I will send you an intake form that will tell you a bit more of the process, get some of the pesky legal jargon out of the way, while providing information for the next step, booking your first virtual session with me! Our sessions typically range from 45 – 60 minutes (with couples couching ranging from 60 – 90 minutes), and together we will start working towards your unique and specific goals; building stronger communication skills, creating a path for more meaningful connections, providing resources when appropriate, and all with the knowledge that our sessions will be completely confidential.

My passion has always been people, relationships, and the quest for love. When I first launched this business in 2017, I thought I had it all figured out. Funny enough, life had different plans for me, and I had to do some soul searching, write a book (non yet published), and fall in love (with the man of my dreams) to finally reach the place where I could fully help others. Life’s a journey, and I am no stranger to the strange little quirks and deviations that it can throw our way. I like to think that I made every relationship mistake in the book, so that no one else has to, but as it turns out, we learn the most from making little mis-steps here and there. And I have learned it is much easier to navigate these situations with a trusted confident by your side, which of course I hope will be me!

Breaking away from relationship norms, is a term that has re-defined itself in my mind, time and time again. It is open ended, evolving, and most importantly, it is one that has many forms, just like the modern relationship. My expertise lies in infidelity, non-monogamy, and helping individuals and couples regain their voice in their relationships. That being said, I am currently in a loving and happy monogamous relationship, so just like my brand, I have experienced my own form of metamorphosis. There is no normal when it comes to people, or how we love, and I believe that needs to be celebrated, but sometimes that’s hard to do without a guiding hand. I have explored the complexities of love for decades, so know you are not alone, no matter how isolating it can sometimes feel, or just uncertain. We don’t have playbook for relationships, but we do have coaches, who can help us see the truth of what’s really going on in our lives.

So if you are ready to find your own bliss, rekindle the passion, or just need help finding your voice in your current relationship, I would love to hear from you using this handy little contact me form.

I look forward to hearing from you!

Krys

Online Dating Tips, Reading List

Sapiens: A Book Review

Making a great first impression is such an important factor in today’s dating world.  And yes, you could chat about what you’re watching on Netflix, by why not wow them, by talking about an incredible book? (which you can purchase right through my site which helps fuel this blog by clicking on the above link)  Sapiens is a very simple read, and I pretty much guaranteed that with the diversity of subjects it touches on you will find something engaging to talk about!

For example, did you know where our monetary system evolved from?  Or how about the ever interesting subject of why Sapiens are the dominant species?  A little too dry for you?  Ok, how about just the wonder of exploring why we even exist and what role Cyborgs could play in our future?

A brief history, will touch on something meaningful to you, and give you ample opportunity to show off your intellect far beyond what the latest episode of Stranger Things will.  This in an honest and thoughtful look at our evolution and asks some pretty open ended questions in the process.

So, if you are ready to stand out, I would highly recommend Sapiens!  And if you really love it, there is a sequel too which I will purchasing shortly!

Happy reading! And of course, happy dating!

Are you ready to kick your dating life into high gear?  Why not reach out?  I offer one on one coaching, as well as provide a host of resources to give you that edge in the dating market.  Contact me today to learn more.

Blog Post, Reading List

A Natural History of Love (Book Review)

Are you ready to learn the history of love and improve your dating game or current understanding the evolution of attraction? Do you love learning through poetry or have interest in the science and neurophysiology behind your desire to cuddle? Then might I recommend picking up a copy of A Natural History of Love: Author of the National Bestseller A Natural History of the Senses” by Diana Ackerman (Which you can purchase directly through my affiliate link above!) Where as my last book review on Why Gentlemen Prefer Blonds is a fun and simple read, this delves much deeper into the emotional, while still maintaining strong scientific support.

This book began as a beautiful journey through historical literature in all things love, including dandies throughout our past and the impact they had on relationships and women. Then it shifts to the erotics of love, and delving into our love customs. It’s a beautiful and inspirational journey that I highly recommend. It definitely has its base in science, but is portrayed in an elegant way, surprising you at the end about how much you have learned in the process.

Because of the rhythmic nature of the book I rate this an easy read for those well versed in reading poetry, and a moderate read for those who are not (which is the group I fall into).  So pick up your copy today for some before bed reading or perhaps in a relaxing bubble bath!

Stay tuned for the next review geared to help you date, love and succeed in relationships!

Blog Post, Online Dating Tips

Online Dating Isn’t a Playground…

Whereby the game is simply to be noticed by any means necessary!  Have you ever opened a message with “hey” or  “how are you?”.  What about sending a funny meme online to a public forum just to get some conversation going?  Have you ever matched with someone, only to play the endless waiting game, hoping the person on the other end will message first?  How’s that working out for you?

Chances are it’s not, and that you’re still single.  And here’s why.  Online dating is saturated with people who don’t know how to use it.   The singles pool is filled with lonely individuals who are so frustrated that any attention is good attention, even if it isn’t (such as the dick pictures).  We become so frustrated that we are single we resort to the playground mentality of being thankful for any human interaction even if it entails being yelled at or blocked.  It doesn’t make a lot of sense when you think about it, but misery, depression and loneliness does some pretty weird things to our psyche.

Online dating if done correctly can be an amazing opportunity to meet people.  I met my partner on Plenty of Fish nearly 8 years ago.  And I have countless friends who are married and starting families all thanks to online dating.  And do you know what they all had in common?  They weren’t on there just to get attention.  They were there with intent and purpose.  Meaning, they thought about their messages before sending.  They envisioned the reaction they would get, and if it didn’t work (which is never does the first few times), they would re-evaluate, and try something new.   By putting the scientific method of hypothesis, experimenting, checking your results and then rinse and repeat until you get it right, many of my nearest and dearest are happily in love.

So stop playing games online.  Think before you type something.  Imagine the response you want to get, and dating with purpose and intent.

For an easy to use guide on just how to send that first message, and interaction download this easy to use guide today!  Or to book an initial consultation for one on one coaching please e-mail, ghislaine9999@gmail.com (In Person and Online Sessions Available).

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Once a Cheater Always a Cheater…?

This phrase has become so commonplace that I don’t think we even give it a second thought.  If a person has been cheated on, we use it to make them feel better.  If a person admits to cheating, it becomes the rationalization to never forgive, become distrustful and often times sever the relationship.  But is that really fair?  Has this term become such a cliche that we have forgotten that every single relationship and circumstance has its own story and more than that, 2 sides?

Let’s consider the young, dumb, horny teenager who cheated on their first partner when drunk.  Are they forever now burdened with the title of a cheater because they made a juvenile mistake?  Are they allowed to grow, develop and mature from the experience and possibly move on?  Or is it like the bad tattoo that must follow them forever?

What about women who after birthing 4 beautiful children has put on weight and her partner no longer finds her attractive?  Is she to be labelled a cheater for life when she in desperation found comfort from a co-worker that one time?  The one indiscretion that allowed her to go and face her family with a smile on her face for the first time in a decade?  She didn’t sign up for celibacy and at the same time does not want to destroy her family.  And she vows it will never happen again.  Do we believe her?  Or is she doomed to suffer and have her marriage crumble beneath her?

The thing is, labeling someone a cheater is never so clear cut as we want it to be.  If you have ever been cheated on, or have cheated in the past and you are having troubles moving on, I can help you move past the indiscretion and learn how to love yourself and others again.  It’s time to find forgiveness and become whole again.

Krys

ghislaine9999@gmail.com