Tag: Relationship Coaching

Blog Post, Dating and Relationships, Money and Relationships, Who Am I

Why is the First Session Free?

There is a common misconception that coaches offering free consultations are doing so simply as a clever marketing gimmick. And while this may be true of some, the majority of us utilize this time to garner a more authentic relationship between client and coach, thereby increasing the likelihood that the sessions will be successful. And in the end, that’s the primary reason most of us became coaches, to help others in a field that we hold authority and expertise.

The truth is, for coaching to be effective, both parties must be compatible: simply put, we need to like each other. And to ensure that the liking is based on personality, and skillset and/or whatever other criterion that you are looking for, we don’t want money clouding the initial experience. To put it another way, there are a great many people out there who refuse to have someone pay on the first date, to ensure that there is no expectation for the dates outcome, i.e. sleeping together at the end of the night because someone bought you dinner. Money has a funny way of skewing first impressions, and that is not the goal.

There is a second reason I personally don’t charge for the first coaching session, and that is because it is your opportunity to ask me questions, and see if my approach, knowledge, or skillset would be a fit for what you are looking to achieve in your personal life. And quite frankly, it feels weird for someone to give me money so I can talk about myself, thereby proving my credibility. No one should have to pay for that privilege. 🙂 The value of my services should be apparent after that first meeting, but I want it to be for authentic reasons and not based on the sunk cost fallacy.

I am passionate about helping people achieve success in their love lives, but sometimes two people just can’t work together, for a variety of reasons. Personality mismatches are a huge part of life, so if after our initial session you realize this may be the case, there are no hard feelings. But if you and I agree that we would be a great fit, fantastic! I’ll send you the introductory form via e-mail and our journey towards helping you achieve your goals can begin!

So that in a nutshell is why the first 30 minutes are free! So, are you ready to begin?

Krys

Blog Post, Dating and Relationships

Spicing Things up for Couples in Long Term Relationships

One of the things that comes up with coaching couples and those in long term relationships is the idea of things getting stale. There are so many reasons for a long term partnership to feel like it’s fading: empty nesters, growing apart, career changes, and that just naming a few. You may wake up one morning, and ask yourself “who am I”? And then you look across the room, and feel that there is a stranger lying in your bed. It happens, and if you’re feeling this, know that you are not alone.

Sometimes, it feels easier to just start over, than it does to work through the problems the can feel insurmountable. In your mind, you’ve said it all, and felt it all and yet, that spark is gone. And chances are that your partner has felt it too. Either a shared feeling of emptiness, or the isolating feeling that they must be doing something wrong. Before we go any further, I need you to know that whatever you are feeling, right now, in this moment it is valid. And now, it is time to do something about it.

Perhaps it is something simple, like planning a little getaway, and re-kindling that intimate spark. When you both are present, outside of your everyday stress, things might just fall into place. Maybe you just both need a little sexy nudge, with some wine, a bubble bath, or perhaps you do something extra fun and take an intimacy quiz together, such as The Couples Sex Quiz (with both a free and paid version available and I don’t only recommend because it’s an affiliate link, it’s something I have used myself!). Whatever you decide to do, if it’s together, and you are both smiling and happy, then rejoice!

But, as many of us know, there are times when running away is no longer an option. And if you find yourself in that position, then it’s time to talk, and create a real plan of action for your relationship and your future. Together we will create an actionable plan for moving forward, increasing your communication skills, and answering that all important question, “who are you”, and “what do you need to be happy”.

If you’re ready to break away from the stagnant, then reach out to schedule your free 30 minute consultation today. And if you’re not ready to take that step, then feel free to look around my site where I will be posting blog posts, articles, book recommendation and more. And if you’re in YYC, stay tuned for some in person relationship rescue events TBA!

And remember, Love is Love and we all deserve to be heard!