Book Review – Dating and Relationship Coaching

Everything is #@%!ed [Book Review]

One of the key tenets that I tell my clients is that you need to be in a good dating state of mind in order to meet someone new. After reading Everything is F*cked: A Book About Hope (which you can purchase by clicking on the book cover and the bonus of fueling this blog), by Mark Manson. I can now go much deeper with what that means. Having a good dating state of mind is not about just being positive, and putting your best foot forward. Instead, it is about being realistic with who you are and having a firm grasp on what hope means to you, and more, understanding that sometimes life sucks and you’re OK with that.

How does that help you find the person of your dreams? Quite simply, opening yourself up to another person is tough. And it is even tougher if you are simply putting on a happy face for show. And being in place where you react with your emotions alone makes you more vulnerable to feeling hopeless when things don’t go your way.

This book is an incredibly simple read, and the third of his three books I have read (so a big fan and I will be doing a review on Models as the number self help book for men I coach!) If you have ever felt that life is just not fair. Or that you keep wishing and hoping for good things but they just aren’t happening, then this is the eye opener you need to read. Learning to accept life as it is. To be present in the moment, understanding that pain is the universal constant, and that is OK. And more to the point to give you a direct path to have a better life right now, instead of just waiting for it to happen once you find the one.

As always, Mark Manson talks in a relatable voice, with humour, and down to earth language, even when referencing Plato, Kant, and Nietzsche (which is not easy to do). So I highly recommend this book as an integral part of getting your best self out into the dating scene!

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Sapiens: A Book Review

Making a great first impression is such an important factor in today’s dating world. And yes, you could chat about what you’re watching on Netflix, by why not wow them, by talking about an incredible book? (which you can purchase right through my site which helps fuel this blog by clicking on the above link) Sapiens is a very simple read, and I pretty much guaranteed that with the diversity of subjects it touches on you will find something engaging to talk about!

For example, did you know where our monetary system evolved from? Or how about the ever interesting subject of why Sapiens are the dominant species? A little too dry for you? Ok, how about just the wonder of exploring why we even exist and what role Cyborgs could play in our future?

A brief history, will touch on something meaningful to you, and give you ample opportunity to show off your intellect far beyond what the latest episode of Stranger Things will. This in an honest and thoughtful look at our evolution and asks some pretty open ended questions in the process.

So, if you are ready to stand out, I would highly recommend Sapiens! And if you really love it, there is a sequel too which I will purchasing shortly!

Happy reading! And of course, happy dating!

Are you ready to kick your dating life into high gear? Why not reach out? I offer one on one coaching, as well as provide a host of resources to give you that edge in the dating market. Contact me today to learn more.

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Do Gentlemen Really Prefer Blonds? [Book Review]

This was one of the most surprisingly informative reads of my summer (click on the link to purchase)! Not only was this book a simple and fun read, filled with humor and clever stories, it was incredibly well researched and study supported. Written by a biologist, Jena Pincott’s writing style allows you to read from cover to cover, or just scan through and read the parts of interest to you.

And what may you find in that? Well, if you’re single, it will explain the biological triggers for attraction from auditory, to oral, and of course visual. If your in a relationship, it helps explain why your partner is the one. Both by covering the clever ways our bodies choose who to procreate with, and the hormones and perhaps even pheromones that are present when selecting our forever mate.

But more than that, it is filled with tips and tricks to present yourself in the best possible light for attraction. And seriously, who doesn’t need that from time to time, right?

A highly entertaining and informative read that I would highly recommend you pick up today (and there is a handy image to purchase from amazon right at the top of the page!). So have fun learning about yourself, your prospects and even your partner if that applies to you, on a biological level.

Stay tuned for the next book review coming soon…

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The Art of Seduction [Book Review]

Robert Greene has been my favorite author for well over 15 years and The Art of Seduction is one of the very few books that I have read front to back more than twice. And also, why I chose to place a link to purchase right at the top of this post (from amazon)! While the title may lead you to think this is a pick up book, the reality is far from it. This book pinpoints, in historical and modern detail, something quite necessary, who we attract and who attracts us! From rake to temptress and beyond, the author provocatively, describes historical figures who best exemplify each seduction type/personality. It’s a completely eye opening way of viewing your romantic partners past and present, and more importantly what skills you employ in your own quest to find love.

I adore this book for a number of reasons, but my favorite moment was when I read the chapter that best described how I seduce, or flirt with people. It’s an exhilarating rush, reading about yourself, and pinpointing the depth to which your personal reach can go, and the influences that seduction type has had on our history! Luckier still are those who have employed more than one seduction type and can relate to a few different ways of finding love!

Why do I recommend this book to all the singles I coach so highly? It is an in depth exploration of seduction. It shows who gets the fire burning in our own bellies, and who we in turn do the same to. It shows the power of flirtation, seduction and the positive ways you can employ this amazing gift to intrigue, fall in love, and most important, keep things interesting and passionate in a long term relationship! Just writing this post makes me want to go and re-read it again!

To know someone else, you first have to know yourself. This book hits the nail on the head when it comes to seduction and love types. It is not a short read, but the way it is set up you can choose to go back to the anecdotes in the margins, or just skip to the chapters that you find most relate able. So for anyone looking for some insight on their own personal sexual power, or seductive capabilities, I highly recommend The Art of Seduction!

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The Game [Book Review] and Why This Book is Critical to Read in the Dating World

As a dating and relationship coach there is one quintessential book that every one of my male clients has heard of or read themselves, and that is The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists by Neil Strauss. And after reading the book, I can absolutely see why. So much so, that I encourage you to click on the book cover at the bottom of the page to get your copy off of Amazon today! Inside the gold leafed pages are insights into a world where looks do not matter, in the quest to get laid. All that is required is your unwavering dedication to the rule of Pick up and the games that lay within. There is a formulaic way, for even those suffering from intense shyness or a complete lack of confidence to proceed into the world of women and start collecting digits.

The author delves deep into the secret society, becoming lost in the charms and basically becoming overwhelmed by the power unleashed by the seduction techniques. And it is quite a journey, that requires complete dedication to the art form that masters before had created. The art of seduction and pick up.

Now why as a dating coach would I recommend a book like this, considering I firmly believe in one on one coaching and a no one size fits all approach to relationships? Honestly, because many of these skills and techniques if approached ethically and with the intent of doing no harm, can bolster a persons confidence. By following tried and true methodology it takes away the fear of approaching a stranger. It gives a script to follow, and what remains is a sense of accomplishment and a surprising feeling of “hey, that wasn’t so bad”.

And for all you ladies, I believe this book is valuable for you to read as well. Knowing the tricks and techniques that men have employed over the decades is absolutely eye opening. Men have ended careers in the pursuit of women, and this book shows exactly how they accomplished that, and why. And if you’re like me, and ever suspect some guy in a bar used a pick up line on you in a bar, this book will most likely validate that suspicion.

So, pick up your copy today, and learn what some many before have learned before, that The Game is not for the feint of heart!