Month: March 2018

Blog Post, Online Dating Tips

Online Dating Isn’t a Playground…

Whereby the game is simply to be noticed by any means necessary!  Have you ever opened a message with “hey” or  “how are you?”.  What about sending a funny meme online to a public forum just to get some conversation going?  Have you ever matched with someone, only to play the endless waiting game, hoping the person on the other end will message first?  How’s that working out for you?

Chances are it’s not, and that you’re still single.  And here’s why.  Online dating is saturated with people who don’t know how to use it.   The singles pool is filled with lonely individuals who are so frustrated that any attention is good attention, even if it isn’t (such as the dick pictures).  We become so frustrated that we are single we resort to the playground mentality of being thankful for any human interaction even if it entails being yelled at or blocked.  It doesn’t make a lot of sense when you think about it, but misery, depression and loneliness does some pretty weird things to our psyche.

Online dating if done correctly can be an amazing opportunity to meet people.  I met my partner on Plenty of Fish nearly 8 years ago.  And I have countless friends who are married and starting families all thanks to online dating.  And do you know what they all had in common?  They weren’t on there just to get attention.  They were there with intent and purpose.  Meaning, they thought about their messages before sending.  They envisioned the reaction they would get, and if it didn’t work (which is never does the first few times), they would re-evaluate, and try something new.   By putting the scientific method of hypothesis, experimenting, checking your results and then rinse and repeat until you get it right, many of my nearest and dearest are happily in love.

So stop playing games online.  Think before you type something.  Imagine the response you want to get, and dating with purpose and intent.

For an easy to use guide on just how to send that first message, and interaction download this easy to use guide today!  Or to book an initial consultation for one on one coaching please e-mail, ghislaine9999@gmail.com (In Person and Online Sessions Available).

Blog Post, Reading List

The Art of Seduction [Book Review]

Robert Greene has been my favorite author for well over 15 years and The Art of Seduction is one of the very few books that I have read front to back more than twice.  And also, why I chose to place a link to purchase right at the top of this post (from amazon)!  While the title may lead you to think this is a pick up book, the reality is far from it.  This book pinpoints, in historical and modern detail, something quite necessary, who we attract and who attracts us!  From rake to temptress and beyond, the author provocatively, describes historical figures who best exemplify each seduction type/personality.  It’s a completely eye opening way of viewing your romantic partners past and present, and more importantly what skills you employ in your own quest to find love.

I adore this book for a number of reasons, but my favorite moment was when I read the chapter that best described how I seduce, or flirt with people.  It’s an exhilarating rush, reading about yourself, and pinpointing the depth to which your personal reach can go, and the influences that seduction type has had on our history!  Luckier still are those who have employed more than one seduction type and can relate to a few different ways of finding love!

Why do I recommend this book to all the singles I coach so highly?  It is an in depth exploration of seduction.  It shows who gets the fire burning in our own bellies, and who we in turn do the same to.  It shows the power of flirtation, seduction and the positive ways you can employ this amazing gift to intrigue, fall in love, and most important, keep things interesting and passionate in a long term relationship!  Just writing this post makes me want to go and re-read it again!

To know someone else, you first have to know yourself.  This book hits the nail on the head when it comes to seduction and love types.  It is not a short read, but the way it is set up you can choose to go back to the anecdotes in the margins, or just skip to the chapters that you find most relate able.  So for anyone looking for some insight on their own personal sexual power, or seductive capabilities, I highly recommend The Art of Seduction!